Matt Cook – English 090
Comparison and contrast
Open marriage to monogamous
Matt Cook - 2012
In our current day and age, the concept of marriage seems to have eroded from the strong societal foundations it once represented. Marriages fall shorter of the ‘ever after’ mark and divorce seems prevalent. It could be a reflection on the looser moral value our society has supposedly embraced, or it could be an indication of something else. Traditionally our values are that you pick a compatible lover and life partner, reside under the same roof, split the bills and then eventually rear children and share the same last name. This is all typically made official by the institute of marriage. While looking romantic in the moment, the long term effects are more sober and less comparable to the ending of a romantic harlequin novel.
Whatever the reasons; infidelity plays a large part in the dissolution of many marriages. Overexposure to the same partner day after day paired with the dull trappings of domestic life.
The general assumption is that passions fade and couples start to look elsewhere or fantasize about different sexual partners. The question to ask is whether more marriages would have a longer lifespan, were monogamy not a factor.
Some believe sexual attraction is part of human nature and should be openly enjoyed by a married couple, not repressed; as outdated and idealistic values would have us believe. The counter argument being that if sex is only indulged in for pleasure, it becomes more mechanical and lacks the emotional and intimate connection that monogamy holds; which is the underlying basis for what makes a strong and enduring marriage. The long and hard road of monogamy holds other rewards for the couple who aspire to the same goal. To have a safe and stable relationship - free of secrets, jealousy, and the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases.
While never having been married or part of an open relationship,...