Obstacles in life can motivate one to grow. Through facing different challenges an individual can start to understand who they are and who they want to become. Finding oneself is one of the hardest struggles someone can face. This can be made even more difficult when a person has expectations placed on them by their families. Sandra Cisneros, in the essay “Only Daughter”, discusses her challenging relationship with her father. This essay will examine the obstacles of overcoming expectation. First it will show the struggles faced by Cisneros. Then it will show my own struggle with overcoming the expectations placed upon me by my family. Finally it will describe how these obstacles help us discover our true selves.
In Cisneros essay, she describes her conflict with her desire to be a writer and her father’s expectations of her. Cisneros states, “Being only a daughter for my father meant my destiny would lead me to become someone’s wife” (Cisneros 1). This expectation only pushed Cisneros further into her passion, hoping that one day her writing would win her father’s approval. After attending four years of college and two years of graduate school, she still felt her father viewed her education as a waste because she had not married. Still, she continued to write. Finally one of her articles was translated into Spanish. It was then that her father sat down and gave her the recognition she had wanted so badly. I have always felt that I have fallen short of my families expectations, but this does not hold me back, I continue to strive to be the person I want to become.
When I was five years old, my mother lost custody of me and I was placed with my grandparents in a small desert town. Growing up with my grandparents I always understood that they always wanted me to achieve more than my mother. I worked hard to make them proud. I was accepted to college early in my senior year. I really struggled to understand if going to school was what I...